We all have heard the saying “birds of a feather flock together”. Some find it to be true, some don’t. I myself find it to be true, unless you are that rare species of bird that is there to help change the status quo.
Everyone has an inner circle, which by definition is a small, intimate, and often influential group of people with a common purpose. Our inner circles help us define who we are and what we stand for. If you don’t know who is in your inner circle, here is an easy way to find out… Check the call log on your cell phone, or better yet look at your text messages. The people you talk to the most and hang out with are your inner circle. Now that you have identified your inner circle, ask yourself what purpose do they serve in your life. Are they pushing you to be a better person? Are they people you just joke around with and gossip with? What are they doing with their lives? Do they in any way, shape, form or fashion, help you or your purpose in life?
Your inner should bring the best out of you! They should accept you for you. They should force you to “level up” in all aspects of life. A good inner circle will not allow you to do something stupid and jeopardize yourself, but if you didn’t have time to consult with your counsel before it was done, they should be the first ones to sit you down and tell you the truth. I came across a meme on the internet that read, “if you hang around four people not doing anything with their lives, you are going to be fifth”. Sounds harsh, but it happens, it’s a trap, avoid it all cost. It made me think about the company that I kept at a young age. A lot of friends have changed, not that I am or ever have been better than anyone, as life progresses you just outgrow people and situations. If I kept that company, only God knows where I would be today. Think about the President of The United States, he has an inner circle that he must discuss situations with before anything is done. You are the President and your family and family serve as your counsel.
One key component in a great inner circle in my opinion is having a great mentor on board. A good mentor is someone who has actually been through some things in life and who can hand down some wisdom and restore order within the group when needed. If you have one or more mentors that great, everyone has a different perspective on life and the more knowledge you can gain, the better. I believe mentorship is key to the development of everyone. We all need that one person who we can look to for advice or lean on as we move forward in life and face new obstacles.
I think I have a pretty solid inner circle. We all hold each accountable. We are all progressing in life and looking for ways to not just better ourselves, but also help makes other peoples lives better. We all have different personalities, we approach situations differently, but at the end of the day we are on the same page 95% of the time and we genuinely care for each other.
So, when you sit down and think about what’s keeping you from greatness, check your phone. The answer may be the last person that you called or the text message you sent out. Know your circle and the role they play.